Sunday, September 16, 2012


Needless to say, my life has changed significantly since Penelope was born. It’s been a crazy 8 weeks! But, I feel like things are sort of starting to show signs of settling down. Still crazy, to be sure! But it’s starting to take some kind of shape. Her sleeping, her eating, and her awake times… my daily activities, my social life, my diet, my exercise… kind of getting into a groove.

This “settling down” thing (I am extremely hesitant to use the word routine or God forbid schedule), however slight, is excellent news for me. I am your typical Type-A, Perfectionist Virgo and the randomness was starting to wear on me. Not that we’re out of the woods by any means. It is still so hard.

In some ways, this semi-routine (eek, there it is!) is almost harder than the chaos for some reason. Before, I was just semi-successfully rolling with the Crazy New Everything. Then, one day last week, I suddenly decided Penny NEEDS TO BE ON A SCHEDULE! Wtf have I been doing?! I need to get my act together!!

Similarly, I felt like I was getting a lot of leeway (with myself, I realize no one else gives a shit) with a lot using the “I just had a baby” excuse. My running, my social availability, etc. Suddenly, I didn’t so much *just* have a baby and I feel like I should be back out there doing all the usual stuff I used to (and then some).

I know this is unrealistic, just let me vent here. I do understand that Penny IS still new, and I DID just have a baby. I know I’m doing a good job. When I sit down and go through it logically, I get that.

But, in frequent moments of doubt, it all seems so fucking overwhelming. I feel like a complete failure. I have no faith in myself as a mother. I’m convinced every other parent is sailing through all of this and I’m fucking everything up.

And I feel so alone, like I’m the only one going through this. Even though I have very close friends who are admittedly going through the exact same thing, and I am sure every mother in history has felt this way at some point, I still manage to somehow feel alone. Zach listens all the time to these rants and he is so reassuring and comforting. He is right by my side, but I still manage to feel alone.


Ok, this got away from me a bit. I actually meant for this to be a running post primarily! I guess I needed to get that off my chest. I imagine I sound so insane but seriously I am fine. There are so (soooooo) many joys in my life right now that I can’t stay down for long. There are rough moments, and then there is this:

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She’s the greatest!

Also, I have this:

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(running in general, not just races)

And I have him:


And so much more. My friends, my family, my beautiful city, this gorgeous weather, my health, etc etc etc etc. I am very blessed and I am very grateful.

I am doing my best to savor these precious weeks with my new baby, and to be present in general. To not get wrapped up in my doubts or worries. This is my goal.

But I am REALLY looking forward to having a routine! :)


Lauren @ Sassy Molassy said...

Cheers to routines. And you deserve the time and space to rant. What you're doing is NOT easy by any means or intuitive necessarily. I've heard that kids really do love a schedule even if they fight it - this probably stands for babies to adulthood. Anyway, keep it up!

Petraruns said...

You're doing fine there Jen - ALL of this is who ALL of us feel sometimes, whether we manage it or not. And I like routines - as long as you can be flexible too? X

Auds said...

I think that allowing yourself to vent/rant is a good thing! Keeps perspective :). You sound like you are doing great and Penny is the cutest!

Mel -Tall Mom on the Run said...

Being a new Mom is the hardest ans most rewarding thing in the world. sounds silly but when I felt like I didn't know what I was doing I would get out "What to Expect the First year" and read a chapter ahead.. Stupid, I know, but it made me feel like I knew what was coming.. I also asked for help, I asked for sleep... I survived, barely and you will too.. She is so beautiful!! Congrats..ntdoev18a

Susan - Nurse on the Run said...

I can only imagine what it feels like to be a new mom...I was never much of a babysitter, and what we do the kids at work just makes them cry. Neither is conducive to thinking about parenting! One of the best things I ever heard was, "If you're worried about doing a good job, then you probably are." It was related to nursing and not being a mom, but I think it applies.

Ewen said...

Jen, you're a great mother! If it helps, rant away on the blog. Maybe you can hook up with some other new mums? There was a show on the radio the other day about book clubs & how popular they are with mums. There could be other mum's groups in your area. Anyway, I'm sure you'll get back into a routine -- when Penny turns 25 and leaves home ;)

pay per head said...

It is quite hard at first be then everything is settle and I think that it is great that you have been adjusting and you are making your schedule once again.